I wanted to say I love your post about your relationship. My boyfriend and I got together when I was 14. We are now almost 21 and together for almost 6 years. I love him and I truly believe he is the one because he treats me sooo good. He has made some mistakes though which included lying to me about little things in the past. I just dont know how to know for sure if hes the one because i never had anything else to compare it to. Once in a while i think about a life with someone else and would it be more of a movie fairy tale…but i think i just miss the something new feeling you get in a relationship. When we started dating i was too young to truly apreciate it. I am glad i found him you g and am in college with him but is it normal to question things in our relationship? Or do you think we may not be right?
I love this!! I actually have questions of what to do when I must graduate. I’m currently starting my third year of high school while my boyfriend is starting his second. We have been together since my seventh grade summer( three years), and have grown up together so much. I know I want to spend my life with him even though we have struggles and all of that. We have become each other’s first relationship and through it all I feel like all that I learned And experienced wouldn’t have happened without him. But what happens when it’s time for me to go to college. I am planning on going to a university in Houston and move in his town house with him. Am I able to wait a year for him to graduate in our hometown? I don’t want to leave and face everything alone without him. Also when would be an appropriate time to marry?
This was so lovely to read – I didn’t know it had been so long and it’s nice to see how it all worked out and made you happy! I hope I find myself in a similar place with someone 🙂
Such a lovely post- I have never been in this type of relationship- but I remember having to make this decision when I was choosing to go to uni and my boyfriend at the time was not. We broke up for different reasons, but I totally understand that pull of what you want to do and still being loyal. Great advice!!
I love this post! My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship at the moment while I’m at uni, which is quite difficult but I think it will be worth it! Best of luck for you two, you sound like a great couple 🙂 xxx
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Thank you so much for this post Carrie! You already replied to my email on the subject a while ago but I really really needed a reminder as recently my friendship circle has expanded and there are more parties where my friends are flirting and dating etc and I’ve felt a bit of an outcast. But I know to stick with what I know is right for me, my best friend/boyfriend and I have now received offers from our first choice Uni’s (in the same town) and we’re pretty excited! I know that a lot of people my age prioritize their future careers above all else which works perfectly for them, but I am comfortable and trusting enough in my relationship to hold it just as high in my priorities as University/career prospects etc. Thanks again for this post!
This post is exactly what I needed today so thank you. My boyfriend and I are both from Somerset but I am at uni in London whilst he is in Durham and it can sometimes be so frustratingly hard for us to be apart. We are in love and we need to just adapt to this new part of our lives together
I 31 and I ‘ve been with my boyfriend since we were 17. I can relate! Sure, there have been some tricky times, but I’m so glad I didn’t give up when I was 19 or 25. We still have loads of fun, I still think he’s the sexiest guy I know and I’m happy to wake up with him every day. Having fun together, but also with other people, is key!
I found myself going through a similar experience when I finished university. I had been with my boyfriend since I was 18 and we had supported each other through university. Everybody was sort of pressuring me to go off and do my own thing rather than staying here and waiting for him to finish. Thankfully my family understood and were basically like, “what are a few years?” and I managed to find a fabulous job here and love my life. I’ve never felt closer to Tim than I do now and we have grown stronger and stronger as a couple. I cannot imagine life without him – and yet I don’t feel restricted or limited by having him in my life. Love is so important.
First of all i must say that i love your blog and second that i agree with you , i started dating my Luís(we are portuguese) when i was 15 and he was 18 so i was in high school and he started college and we are also very similiar and dont like partying or drinking/smoking instead we love to go for a walk , cinema , cuddle at home and to be honest i never regret anything or think that i would be happier through my college years without a boyfriend .
I enjoyed everything because i was happy being myself with him by my side and now we are together for almost 7 years and living in England starting a new life so i understand perfectly what you are saying .
It must be really nice of you and Miguel to be able to look back 9 years and reminisce all the stages of your lives together. Especially now in your 20s when all the big changes of life first happen to you and your perspective in life starts to take form. It would probably be quite different if you’ve had the same length of relationship in, say, your 50s. Thanks for writing this and please do share more of such wisdom on the blog 😉