The week before Labor Day, 2016, Circe Hamilton, a freelance photographer in her mid-forties, was preparing to move back to the U.K., after twenty years in New York. She had begun to think of the city as an obstruction; she had recently struggled to make a living, and felt that she was depriving her young son of a gentler, slower childhood in west London, with access to English relatives, the National Health Service, and muddy playgrounds under gray skies. Hamilton is an American citizen—and, she recently learned, a descendant of Alexander Hamilton—but she grew up in England, sounds English, and has a British passport. When her friend Valentina Rice hosted a farewell dinner for her, on August 30th, Hamilton was surrounded by expatriate British women with careers in the media and in fashion. The guests ate blueberry polenta cake and said goodbye to someone they understood to be a single mother.
Children living in single parent families are more probably to get pregnant as teenagers, drop out of high school, abuse drugs and have aggressively emotional and behavioural problems, which lead to social problems.
While much of the focused research is on the child victim, and rightfully so, there remains another much less talked about victim: the non-abusive parent....
Neither side disputes that, in May, 2010, Gunn and Hamilton signed a separation agreement. Under its terms, Gunn paid Hamilton three hundred and fifty thousand dollars to remove her from the deeds of the New York apartment and the Fire Island house. These properties were co-owned, although over the years Hamilton had made a far smaller financial contribution to their partnership than Gunn had. Gunn now describes this cash as a gift—disguised, for tax reasons—that would allow Hamilton to set up one of the homes of their future child.
Hamilton looked into applying for an overseas adoption, feeling that the process would be more predictable, and less fraught, than a domestic one. She was drawn to an agency that encouraged ongoing contact between adopted children and their birth families. In 2009, the couple applied for an adoption from either Ethiopia or Nepal. This required subterfuge. No country, in the shrinking category of countries allowing foreign adoptions, welcomed applications from same-sex couples. Hamilton presented herself as straight and unmarried; she even invented a boyfriend. The two women discussed initiating a second-parent adoption once a child was living with them. Gunn was included in the paperwork that began to amass—criminal-background checks, financial and medical reports, an apartment inspection—but only as a roommate.
To enhance a child’s educational experience, parents, teachers, and school leaders must form a partnership which helps to foster lifelong learning in the lives of the children they serve.
Whether a parent is providing love, criticism, or old-fashioned rulemaking, the structure and stability of a healthy parental relationship with teens can make a huge impact on their stressful adolescent lives.
This argument relates to parenting because it can be harmful to children, requires competence to raise those children, and we can assume that a reliable procedure can be formulated....
As a clinical psychologist who recognizes that a trusting parent-child alliance is key, I recommend honesty all along the way. Let your kids know from the beginning that you’re supervising screen use. If parents lie and sneak online, your kids will recognize the hypocrisy and the very connection that your dialogue has nurtured may be damaged. Don’t risk resentment, risk open cooperation and collaboration. The earlier you set this expectation, the more likely your kids will be accepting and cooperative.
Furthermore, one could say the effects of being a child/children with only one parent, or neither parents, can cause psychological/heath problem, decrease cognitive/academic abilities, and lastly cause children to suffer from antisocial behavior.
Although tech programming is one of the top things parents tell me they struggle with, the truth is we are in a very user-friendly time in the tech world. All you have to do is search for your topic in your computer’s browser (e.g., “How do I set the parental controls on the iPhone 6?”). Within seconds you’ll find easy-to-follow checklists and instructional videos on how to get the job done. One dedicated day of installation can prevent months of online risk. For younger children that means parental controls and child-safe browsers. For older kids you’ll want to know a lot about social media apps and install filtering and monitoring apps and software.
Gunn and Hamilton’s relationship began in 2004, after they met at a Valentine’s Day party. Gunn was thirty-nine, Hamilton thirty-one. They moved in together in 2007, and bought the Sullivan Street apartment. By then, Gunn had discovered her commercial skills. She worked for a firm that supplied Apple Stores with large printed graphics; she also founded her own company, Shasty, to make acrylic signs. She was often away from New York. In 2012, Gunn earned three million dollars.
The daughter of a firefighter, Gunn grew up in Queens and left home at seventeen. She said that she got “a little lost in the cracks for a few years” before going to college, in the Midwest. She returned to New York permanently in her thirties, and only fully reconnected with her parents and her sister a decade ago. She has a brother, who has children, but who is not on good terms with the family.
A parent is there to love and care for a child, to help them with their physical, mental and emotional needs, and to bring up and raise responsible citizens who are confident, polite, successful, loving and caring people.