The topic about friendship seems to be quite easy, but most students face a range of problems while preparing it. The main difficulty is that the topic is complicated because of its abstract character. It is not easy to complete a well-analyzed, interesting and informative paper about an abstract quality. One needs to spend really much time to research the problem properly and write an essay with logic and sense.
When you are told to prepare an original essay on friendship, be ready to devote much time to brainstorming interesting ideas and composing the plot of the essay, which should be catchy and present your personal vision of this topic and importance of friendship for every person.
One sort of answer is that friendship is instrumentally good. Thus,Telfer (1970–71) claims that friendship is “lifeenhancing” in that it makes us “feel morealive”—it enhances our activities by intensifying ourabsorption in them and hence the pleasure we get out of them(239–40). Moreover, she claims, friendship is pleasant in itselfas well as useful to the friends. Annis (1987) adds that it helpspromote self-esteem, which is good both instrumentally and for its ownsake.
One way to construe the question of the value of friendship is interms of the individual considering whether to be (or continue tobe) engaged in a friendship: why should I invest considerable time,energy, and resources in a friend rather than in myself? What makesfriendship worthwhile for me, and so how ought I to evaluate whetherparticular friendships I have are good friendships or not?
In each of these accounts of the kind of intimacy and commitment thatare characteristic of friendship, we might ask about the conditionsunder which friendship can properly be dissolved. Thus, insofar asfriendship involves some such commitment, we cannot just give up onour friends for no reason at all; nor, it seems, should our commitmentbe unconditional, binding on us come what may. Understanding moreclearly when it is proper to break off a friendship, or allow it tolapse, may well shed light on the kind of commitment and intimacy thatis characteristic of friendship; nonetheless, this issue gets scantattention in the literature.
At the same time however, it needs to be recognized that this is merely scratching the surface of the debate, that there is a parallel in which aggressive proselytizing could at the same time infringe upon the very freedoms of others....
The intent of this account, in which what gets shared is, we mightsay, an identity that the friends have in common, is not to bedescriptively accurate of particular friendships; it is rather toprovide a kind of ideal that actual friendships at best onlyapproximate. Such a strong notion of sharing is reminiscent of theunion view of (primarily erotic) love, according to which loveconsists in the formation of some significant kind of union, a“we” (see the entry on , the section on ). Like the union view of love, this account of friendship raisesworries about autonomy. Thus, it seems as though Sherman’sAristotle does away with any clear distinction between the interestsand even agency of the two friends, thereby undermining the kind ofindependence and freedom of self-development that characterizesautonomy. If autonomy is a part of the individual’s good, thenSherman’s Aristotle might be forced to conclude that friendshipis to this extent bad; the conclusion might be, therefore, that weought to reject this strong conception of the intimacy offriendship.
It is unclear from Sherman’s interpretation of Aristotle whetherthere are principled reasons to limit the extent to which we share ouridentities with our friends; perhaps an appeal to something likeFriedman’s federation model (1998) can help resolve thesedifficulties. Friedman’s idea is that we should understandromantic love (but the idea could also be applied to friendship) notin terms of the union of the two individuals, in which theiridentities get subsumed by that union, but rather in terms of thefederation of the individuals—the creation of a third entitythat presupposes some degree of independence of the individuals thatmake it up. Even so, much would need to be done to spell out this viewsatisfactorily. (For more on Friedman’s account, see the entryon , the section on .)
Second, and more important, Sherman’s Aristotle understands thesingleness of mind that friends have in terms of shared processes ofdeliberation. Thus, as she summarizes a passage in Aristotle(1170b11–12):
Brink (1999) criticizes Whiting’s account of friendship as tooimpersonal because it fails to understand the relationship offriendship itself to be intrinsically valuable. (For similarcriticisms, see Jeske 1997.) In part, the complaint is the same asthat which Friedman (1989) offered against any conception offriendship that bases that friendship on appraisals of thefriend’s properties (cf. the 3rd paragraph of above): such a conception of friendship subordinates our concern forthe friend to our concern for the values, thereby neglecting whatmakes friendship a distinctively personal relationship. GivenWhiting’s understanding of the sense in which friends sharevalues in terms of their appeal to the intrinsic and impersonal worthof those values, it seems that she cannot make much of the rebuttal toFriedman offered above: that I can subordinate my concern for certainvalues to my concern for my friend, thereby changing my values in partout of concern for my friend. Nonetheless, Brink’s criticismgoes deeper:
Another way to construe the question of the value of friendship is inmore social terms: what is the good to society of having its membersengaged in relationships of friendship? Telfer (1970–71, 238)answers that friendship promotes the general good “by providinga degree and kind of consideration for others’ welfare whichcannot exist outside it.” Blum (1980) concurs, arguing thatfriendship is an important source of moral excellence preciselybecause it essentially involves acting for the sake of your friend, akind of action that can have considerable moral worth. (For similarclaims, see Annis 1987.)
I believe that true friendship can last forever and I plan on it lasting forever. We will visit each other at college and where ever we end I up I know we will keep in touch; because I believe that true friendship can last forever.