Worden Tasks Stroebe and Schut Tasks
accept the reality of accept the reality of the changed world
experience the pain of grief take time off from the pain of grief
adjust to an environment in which reconstrue the environment itself the deceased is missing
relocate the deceased emotionally and bereaved persons need to develop
move on with life new roles, identities, and relationships Types of loss
relationship dissolution, sexual assault, illness, role change, loss of employment, natural catastrophe, interpersonal violence, geographic displacement, political torture
-Harvey, 1998, in Neimeyer, 2001 Diversity-
Gender Folkman's revised stress-coping theory incorprating positive meaning “Hope is to the spirit what oxygen is to the lungs: It fuels energy and efforts to rise above adversity”.
Coping with a child's grief puts added strain on a bereaved parent. However, angry outbursts or criticism only deepen a child's anxiety and delays recovery. Instead, talk honestly with children, in terms they can understand. Take extra time to talk with them about death and the person who has died. Help them work through their feelings and remember that they are looking to adults for suitable behavior.
A loss due to suicide can be among the most difficult losses to bear. They may leave the survivors with a tremendous burden of guilt, anger and shame. Survivors may even feel responsible for the death. Seeking counseling during the first weeks after the suicide is particularly beneficial and advisable.
It is not easy to cope after a loved one dies. You will mourn and grieve. Mourning is the natural process you go through to accept a major loss. Mourning may include religious traditions honoring the dead or gathering with friends and family to share your loss. Mourning is personal and may last months or years.